I’m not finally “growing up”.
I’m not “GIVING UP”.
I’m also not pregnant.
Many people who see me for the first time since I’ve made the decision (this past May) make the comment about my lack of pink hair. Those 3 questions up there, are the 3 most common ones that I’ve been asked. It doesn’t bother me to be asked but I figured I might as well come here and explain myself in one fell swoop. Only, I’m not sure there is much explaining to do.
Sometimes for expedience I have said “Yup, I’m giving up.” I’ve not explained further that I’ve simply given up coloring my hair and not the deeper meaning that might be implied of giving up on life. I actually feel more lively if you can believe it.
My lengthier answer; It’s a little gross/sickening to have those chemicals burning/stinking away on my head. Yes, I know it only lasts for 20-30 minutes but that’s 30 minutes I could be doing something better. For 20 years or so I’ve been adding chemicals to my hair and stripping the color out only to add the pink in. Only, pink doesn’t like to adhere to the grey as I once hoped it would so the frequency was ever increasing.
I had started to use dye to darken other parts of my hair and even it out so the pink would pop more even when it faded. I was covering up my grey and the truth is….I LIKE MY GREY HAIR. I have an all of smattering and at my temples I have 2 sections of beautiful grey. My racing stripes. I like them. I didn’t want to cover it up any more.
In preparation for writing this I wasn’t sure if there was a loftier way to explain my decision but it’s just grey hair. Still I did a quick search (google is a modern miracle) and found a few other things if you’re reading this with any interest.
Advanced Style This is one the only style blog I frequent. Not all the ladies there are grey though they have all taken a few trips around the sun. They’re stylish and gorgeous.
You tube video diary of a woman going grey – there’s quite a few of these. Watch through this one and then you can watch others.
Do your own googling if you’re interested. You should know though, there are lots of articles written that will talk about women “giving up” and women becoming invisible. I think the “Invisible” aspect of my age showing is a really interesting one. I look forward to seeing if this bodes true. It feels like the negative articles are trying to make women feel like they’re less of a vibrant woman if she decides to go grey. It’s not true.
The one really amazing thing that I’ve noticed since I stopped fighting my hair color is my skin. I was thinking it look blegh. I was willing to counteract that with cosmetics. Clearly that’s my problem, I need more creams or something….or better food. Something. Little did I know it wasn’t adding it was taking away that would change my skin. Yes, this could all just be in my head but my skin looks warmer to me. I wear less makeup if I wear any because I like my skin better.
You may not have noticed (or not have grey hair at all) but grey hair behaves differently than other hair. I have had short hair for a while now and the greys behaved one way while the brown hairs behaved another. The browns laid flat and did as they were told. They were easy to style. The greys were like petulant children and stood at odd angles and just generally behaved badly. Part of my dyeing the hair was to keep the mingled greys in line.
The new haircut helps with this. Longer hair can make the greys be ok and so can crazy short hair. In searching for a new hair cut this is the one that really caught my eye. Its an undercut. Before and after the cut:
I feel lucky that I’ve made it to an age where my hair can turn grey. Someday I may go back to fiddling with the color but right now the hair is pretty awesome natural.